The Stan is the fan who loves too much. If you are a Stan (the noun) or you stan (the verb), you don’t just love a particular show, song or celebrity; that passion is part of your identity. The term (a portmanteau of “stalker” plus “fan”) has been around since Eminem’s 2000’s song about the eponymous superfan who’s destroyed by his obsession. Since then it has evolved from a diss into a source of empowerment and community that many embrace. Here’s our Take on how the Stan embodies the complexities of modern fanship, and why it’s so tempting to escape into one-sided relationships instead of working through the challenges of reciprocity.